Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center earns accreditation renewal

certificate-framed-page-001(Des Moines, Iowa) September 13, 2016 – The Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center has been awarded Full Accreditation renewal for June 2016 – June 2020, from The Samaritan Institute, located in Denver, Colorado.

“Accreditation is a major accomplishment and demonstrates a Center’s commitment to excellence,” according to Robert Johnson, L.D.S.W., President/CEO for the Samaritan Institute, the headquarters for an international network of Samaritan Centers. “The accreditation process indicates that Centers offer professional services within a framework of quality organizational, administrative, and financial practices,” Johnson said.

The accreditation process is a rigorous four-month self-study to evaluate the quality of clinical services, community support, management processes, educational programs, administrative functioning, financial accountability, marketing and communication efforts, and overall Center effectiveness.

The Samaritan Ministry advocates the concept of interfaith, team-oriented, and cost-efficient counseling, emphasizing the inter-relatedness of mind, body, spirit and community.

“I am so proud of our clinicians and staff for their excellence that makes it possible for us to earn this accreditation, and to serve the community through quality counseling and education,” said Ellery Duke, executive director of the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling. “I am also grateful to our capable board of directors, generous base of support and clients who entrust us with their concerns. This is a team effort.”

Through its affiliation with the Samaritan Institute, the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center is part of an international network of 62 Samaritan Centers with 481 offices in 25 states and Japan.

The Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center was established in 1972 by the First United Methodist Church. Community support has expanded to include a broad band of individual donors and generous corporate and foundation support, including the Dean and Sandra Carlson Foundation, the Fred Maytag Foundation, BWA Foundation, the Gannett Foundation/The Des Moines Register, Polk County Board of Supervisors, the Principal Financial Group Foundation, Westbancorporation Foundation and more.

More about the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center:

The Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center is a nonprofit, nonsectarian organization serving more than 4,000 individuals annually including up to 800 children and adolescents, through 26 licensed clinicians. In 2015, the Center operated with a $2.9 million budget. Although best known for its 44 years of providing professional mental health therapy, the Center is a multi-faceted organization providing a range of services:

  • Counseling, including specialized services for children and adolescents
  • Psychiatric consultation and care
  • Psychological testing and assessment
  • Training for clinical professionals
  • Leadership and spiritual life programming
  • Career Coaching
  • Conflict transformation and strategic planning services for congregations, nonprofits and businesses

They told me I wasn’t alone – Elizabeth’s story

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Depression does not make a distinction of rich or poor, man, woman or child, yet it can have the same tragic outcome: suicide. However depression is treatable and people can experience the fullness of life. As an example, we offer the story of one of our clients, Elizabeth. (Shared with permission. We’ve changed the name and identifying details to protect privacy.)

If you saw Elizabeth today, you would see a beaming mother of two little boys, embracing the joy and challenges of a growing family along with her husband. But it wasn’t always that way. Life was bleak for Elizabeth.

Elizabeth has suffered anxiety and depression since she was a young girl, starting therapy in third grade. Her fears were so dark she didn’t know if she would succeed in school, enter the workforce or continue to live. Psychiatric medication helped curb her mental anguish yet after she married she faced an impossible choice: having children or maintaining health. Elizabeth imagined her life with prescription medication would hurt the baby, and her life without meds might end.

Elizabeth came to the Center during this time of grave discernment. She met with a licensed counselor and the Center’s psychiatry physician assistant (PA). They all worked together to create a treatment plan. Elizabeth learned that there are safe medication options, if she and her husband decided to start a family. They did, and Elizabeth’s clinical team walked with them every step of the way.

The children are now one and three years old. Elizabeth is a working mother and tends to her self-care. Elizabeth continues treatment with her psychiatry PA and speaks fondly of her: “She tells me ‘happy, healthy mommy means happy, healthy baby.’”

Elizabeth is one of more than 4,000 individuals assisted annually at the Center. Approximately 35 percent of our clinical clients utilize a sliding pay scale, thanks to generous donations.

“They told me I wasn’t alone,” said Elizabeth about her clinical team. “They said I wasn’t the only one who experiences this.”

COOL – Children Overcoming the Obstacles of Life

We are pleased to reprint this classic piece by Grace Percival, co-founder of the Center’s COOL practice (Children Overcoming the Obstacles of Life).

Beauty Teenage Girl In Hat OutdoorsChildren are born with varying degrees of potential for growth – physically, cognitively, emotionally, and relationally. They rely on and look to the adults in their environment to not only keep them safe, but to help in the monumental and awesome task of realizing their potential to understand and integrate the world around them.

They are eager to connect and to please. They are eager to develop relationship. It is what they are born to do.

I am on the floor in the children’s waiting room at the Center picking up some toys and I notice an eight-year-old boy several feet away intently building with Lego blocks. His mother sits in the rocker close by slowly rocking, her face set in tired lines. The boy completes his masterpiece and raises his face to his mother. His eyes are shining as he exclaims, “Mom! Look at what I built!” Just then his therapist enters the room and greets the boy and his mother. His mother never looks at the boy or his masterpiece. She says hello to the therapist and says sharply to the boy, “Pick up that mess. Hurry up. You have to go.” The boy’s face falls, his body slumps. He knocks down his masterpiece.

Portrait of a boy teen outdoorsWe are much concerned in society today with providing safe physical environments for our children. This can be tricky while trying at the same time to nurture the child’s natural curiosity and sense of independence. If environments are too physically safe, children do not learn their limits very well nor do they learn to trust their bodies or their developing “self.”

Climbing, jumping, balancing result in a child’s feeling grounded and at one with the earth, which increases feelings of “I can-ness,” mastery and self-power. When a toddler begins to climb onto something and checks back with an adult, an encouraging, rather than fearful, response can convey not only a message of support but also of trust, e.g., “I trust that you can manage this.”

It is important to realize that “safety” involves not only management of the physical environment, but also involves psychological and emotional safety. This bigger picture of safety calls upon adults to provide:

  • encouragement rather than limits,
  • praise rather than criticism,
  • patience rather than sarcasm,
  • negotiation rather than issuing edicts.

child paint handsThis bigger picture of safety also involves understanding that children do not possess the communication skills or experience to always adequately convey motivations or explanations. It means that adults recognize that children, of every age, are easily frightened and psychologically wounded.

At the Center, we see the consequences when children are not provided this kind of psychological and emotional safety. We see children who carry their bodies stiffly and shy away from touch. We also see children who are afraid to make a choice of a game for fear of displeasing the adult or who will not try something new because they might get hurt or fail. We see what happens when the very things intended to protect become obstacles to growth. So, providing a safe environment also means providing time and space for kids to be who they are without fear of judgment, criticism, or too many limits. It means providing environments that are rich and ripe for exploration without fear of getting in trouble for getting dirty or hurt.

It seems that adults are so often concerned with “teaching a lesson” and/or discipline that they forget how it is that kids learn best:

  • by exploring,
  • by making mistakes, and
  • by being in caring, non-punitive relationships.

Kids learn through their relationships with other people and through physical interaction with the environment. Indeed, infants are neurologically “wired” to attunement with other people. They pick up on and respond to the emotional tones around them, as well as other sensory input. A harsh tone, a turning away from, a lack of acknowledgement of the infant or child – all have profound effects on the developing child throughout his/her life.

For example, the child who learns that people cannot be relied upon to provide for basic needs may grow into an adult who has trouble with intimacy. There is also the misbegotten idea that if a child misbehaves, punishment in the form of reprimand or time out or removal of privilege is required or the child will not “learn the lesson.”

IMG_1034The problems with the use of punishment are that:

  • the effects are usually temporary,
  • a whole host of emotional and physiological reactions are engendered that actually interfere with learning, and
  • relationships are damaged.

This last issue – damage to relationships – has profound ramifications for future learning. If a child learns to not trust a significant adult, chances are the child is not going to learn from that adult anything other than how power impacts the relationship. For example, a child learns that bigger people have power and can use force; little people are not listened to; there are right ways of doing things and wrong ways and nothing in between; what the adult says goes and it does not matter what the child thinks or feels.

Most people reading this may think, “Well, I never act like that.” However, think about the last time you were playing a board game with a kid and the kid changed the rules in the middle of the game; or when the three-year-old decided to climb onto the counter to get something out of the cupboard; or the 12-year-old tried to recreate a science experiment with a plastic pop bottle, tin foil, and matches; or the 16-year-old stayed out past curfew. What was your response? Were you reactive out of fear or anger or were you responsive, pointing out consequences of their behavior?

IMG_1035Children require physical, social, and emotional environments that trust their innate capacity for growing, learning, and relating. Our job as adults in relationship with children is to nurture these bright young spirited beings through the obstacles that life throws at them. Our role is about being a guide on the side, rather than a sage on the stage. It’s about taking the back seat and relinquishing the spotlight. It’s about giving and it’s about giving up – sleep, that new thing, my time, my fears….

I am standing on a stool in the kitchen full of all my four-year old know-how, trying to separate an egg. My mother’s hands are on either side of the bowl; she must have been standing behind me. Her words in my ear encouraged me to pour the egg from one shell to the other. Her hands never touched mine. She was present but she let me separate the egg, with yoke splitting, yellow mixing with white, and flecks of shell falling.

Grace Percival, M.A. / Grace is a licensed pediatric psychologist, formerly on staff with the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center

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The Center’s COOL practice (Children Overcoming the Obstacles of Life) is an experiential approach to counseling that integrates art, play and physical movement to help young people communicate their inner life.

Resources

  • Holt, John (1995, revised ed). How Children Learn. NY: Perseus Publishing.
  • Karen, Robert (1994). Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love. NY: Oxford University Press.
  • Standing, E.M. (1998, New Ed). Maria Montessori: Her Life and Work. NY: Plume Publishing.

Thank you Ellery!

From the Desk of Ellery Duke – November 2016

A message of Gratitude from Ellery here.

Honor Ellery with a gift to the Ellery H. Duke Fund for Hope & Healing

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After nearly 40 years of dedicated service, Ellery will be retiring in December 2016.  We invite you to recognize Ellery for the impact he has made on the lives of so many.  This fund will help ensure a legacy of hope and healing for generations to come.

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Ellery’s retirement message – June 2016

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Click image to launch a PDF of Ellery’s letter to supporters of the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center.

 

Media Kit

Media release – Dr. Ellery Duke announces retirement after leading large mental health
organization and counseling clients for nearly 40 years

2015 Annual Report – Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center

Three-Minute Video – Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center

What is pastoral counseling? 

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Ellery Duke, Ph.D., licensed psychologist

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Ellery Duke, Ph.D., licensed psychologist

 

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Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center

 

Ellery’s bike ride across America

Ellery bicycled 3,571 miles in 32 days, July 7 – August 7, 2013, raising more than $30,000 for mental health counseling assistance. Read his biking blog here.

Check back soon for a link to a photo album

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Meet our 2016 board president, Mary Gottschalk

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Mary Gottschalk, 2016 President of the Board of Directors, Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center

We are pleased to present this brief interview with our 2016 board president, Mary Gottschalk.

What is your connection to the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center? 

I have been involved with mental issues for many years. Both my parents were the field of psychology, and I availed myself of mental health services for several years in my early adulthood. In mid-1990’s I was deputy director of Community Access, Inc., a non-profit that provided housing and mental health services to the mentally ill in New York City. I have been a supporter of the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center since I came to Des Moines in 2000, but only recently joined the board.

What is your educational background:

I have a BA (history and philosophy) from the University of Chicago, and a MBA (finance and economics) from the University of Cincinnati. However, I am a perpetual student and have audited courses in philosophy at Drake for the last seven to eight years.

What is your employment background?

I have more than three decades experience in strategic financial management, both as a line manager and a consultant. Consulting clients included the boards and executive management of Fortune 500 firms in the U.S. and overseas; non-profit consulting targeted social service agencies in New York, Melbourne (Australia) and Des Moines. I came to Des Moines in January 2001 as Chief Financial Officer of the Federal Home Loan Bank to implement three key structural changes in the Bank’s mission and operations. After completing my engagement at the Bank, I elected to remain in Des Moines as an independent consultant (MCG Strategic Services) to provide financial and strategic planning for the non-profit sector. Strategic planning clients in Des Moines included the Drake School of Journalism and the College of Business and Public Administration. My teaching experience includes five years (2009–2014) as an adjunct instructor in the College of Business and Public Administration at Drake University and two years in the Senior College of Greater Des Moines. I am currently an adjunct instructor in the Department of Philosophy and Religion at Drake University.

What are your hobbies?

I am an avid reader and love to write. I also have a passion for gardening. At the top of my list these days, however, is traveling, preferably renting an apartment or house in someplace I’ve never been, and spending long enough to get to know it.

How did you get involved with the Center’s board of directors?

I have known Ellery for most of my time in Des Moines, although I cannot quite remember where we first met. In early 2014, I realized I would soon complete my board and committee commitments to several large non-profits in Des Moines, and was looking for another agency to which I might make a commitment. The Center came immediately to mind … I approached Ellery, and was thrilled when he recommended me for the term starting in early 2015.

What do you find most inspiring about the Center’s mission?

I have been aware of the Center since arriving in Des Moines more than 15 years ago. In that time, I have come to know the Center directly through counseling relationships. I have also been aware of the Center through friendships with staff as well as from its reputation in the community. The Center goes far beyond a traditional mental health counseling facility, with its innovative and diverse programs for spiritual and personal support. It is a unique organization, and a gem in our midst.

Thank you, Mary!

Epilogue – May 16, 2016

A Walk Across Iowa on the Old Lincoln Highway: Epilogue

by Mark Minear

photo credit: Beckie Minear, Mark’s sister-in-law, taken on day 9 of Mark’s walk

Greetings!  Here is the last entry to the blog of my Walk.

If there was a book to emerge from this experience (and I don’t anticipate that there will be—but if there was), I can’t decide whether it should be called…

Walking on Holy Uneven Ground

or

Walking on Uneven Holy Ground.

I think the former.  My experience was both—human and sacred.  I clearly had the sense of how temporal the event was in my life… earthy, uncomfortable, unpredictable, weary-making, uneven, etc.  (Of the estimated three-quarters of a million steps from river to river, I would guess that over half of them was on uneven ground—a tapered shoulder off the road, portions that were not graded, various sizes and shapes of rocks, etc.)  It was an experience that stretched my human capabilities to some of its limits…  however, it was also a spiritual opportunity to catch some “glimpses” of the holy… the beauty of creation, humility amidst the Mystery, the sense of Presence, moments of awe and joy and wonder and reverence, Light for the path, a calling to something deeper and higher, etc.  It was a sacred experience that surprised and renewed me with hope and transformation amidst the importance of gratitude and generosity.  I think the former, Walking on Holy Uneven Ground, because it connotes both the sacred and the human with the sacred over all the experience, including the human (and, surprise… even if we are unaware).

Such is the case for these earthly journeys we have been privileged to take.  There is certainly an unevenness to our daily challenges and the way is rough at times, and one certainly knows that they are alive as their bodies remind them step by step on the pilgrimage.  But there is also an available sacredness that gives us pause to open our lives to the Holy Other—to have moments, not where we escape the realities of the earthly journey, but to bring great meaning out of life’s temporal experiences when we transcend and know that there is Something More to the journey than the superficial, the humdrum, the same old same old, the painful, etc. (you get the idea).

We are given opportunities to go deeper to understand that our individual lives are gifts… and, out of that sense of gratitude, we in turn spontaneously become more generous and cheerful as givers (as we understand that we are only stewards and not owners of all that is in our lives).  Can you think of anything in life—including how we think of “love” or “faith” or “joy” or whatever—that is not based in this experience and growing cycle of gratitude and generosity?

And here’s the good news: we can choose to nurture this spirit of gratitude in our lives!  We are not helpless even amidst our seasons of emotional pain and despair—we can gently but intentionally “look” for and embrace with thanksgiving the many gifts around our lives every day.  Mindfulness is about awareness—paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and without judgment.  Gratitude would simply be a response to what we “notice” in and around our lives… of course, along with the observation of other matters—many of which might be unpleasant or even painful.  When we hold in our awareness the human as well as the holy, something happens within our heads and our hearts!  Thoughts and feelings that are uncomfortable are certainly there—but that is not all!  We also find wonder, curiosity, reverence, gratitude, generosity, etc. on the path to becoming transformed by the sacred in and around our lives.  And this ability to observe our inner experience becomes an opportunity to see more clearly the Light of God’s love and forgiveness and grace for our lives!

In fact, I would dare to push this a little further.  Many folks I know are closer to what might be considered agnostic; they find it difficult to wrap their heads and/or their hearts around a Creator, let alone a specific expression of a Heavenly Parent or Christ as Friend.  But, even if there wasn’t a God, this path of living and growing with gratitude and generosity is still a noble, magnanimous life to live.  For those who believe that we are alone without a Holy Other, is there a higher way to walk through this earthly journey?

We can pay attention to both the internal and external realms of life, and we find this inner path to be our portal to experience the transformational holy in our lives… to attend within and listen.  Thomas Keating wrote: “Silence is God’s first language; everything else is a poor translation.  In order to hear that language, we must learn to be still and to rest in God.”  Consider doing what it takes to pay attention, not just to the beauty of the external world around you though the five senses, but to the inner spiritual intimations of God’s Light and Presence that are already there!

So… I returned home to my loving wife, the people in my life of family and friends, the tasks and responsibilities waiting for me (boy, did the yard need to be mowed!), etc.… and, though I was still most certainly “Mark”, I also was given the privilege to be “Mark with a little more awareness of both the human and the divine”…  a “Mark who could be a little more grateful and a little more generous!”

Mark Minear

Mark Minear

“And the end of our exploring will be to arrive where we started…

And know the place for the first time.”  (T.S. Eliot)

Peace, Mark

P.S.  My walk across Iowa resulted in opportunities to stir up some awareness about mental health care for males as well as raise over $12,500 for boys and men who need counseling assistance financial support if they are uninsured or are inadequately covered by insurance.  Once again… my heartfelt and humble “THANK YOU” to all of you who donated to this fund!

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For more information on Mark’s walk across Iowa: dmpcc.org/WalkwithMark

Day 14 – May 4, 2016

A Walk Across Iowa on the Old Lincoln Highway: Day #14

Mark Minear

Mark Minear

by Mark Minear 

Greetings! And “thank you” to everyone who had anything to do with this adventure.  So many people in so many ways were a part of preparation, support, encouragement, etc.  “No person is an island”… right?  “Every person is a piece of the continent, a part of the main,” wrote the English poet John Donne in 1624.  Even after years of being taught that the American way is one of “rugged individualism”, do any of us really believe that we are that self-sufficient… in no need of another?  Someone helped to make my walking shoes, fix me a breakfast sandwich, and bottle my water… but now I have a new appreciation for just what it takes to make an endeavor like mine over the past two weeks a success.  All I can say is “thank you!”

I appreciated all of the replies to my blog entries, texts, emails, voice mails, etc.  Please know that I felt that I was not be able to reply to the replies on the blog—to keep up with them… and other ways that people reached out to me may have also not had a response.  Just know of my appreciation… and I hope to connect with folks in the coming days as part of “unpacking” this experience!

Today after walking the last 10.5 miles this morning, my wife Karla, brother Hal, and his wife Beckie took a number of pictures at the Missouri River bridge and the sign that says END right above the sign that says LH Heritage Byway.  It was an enjoyable experience to share it with these three special people in my life!

I truly believe that if we all live with intention, then growth, development, transformation, etc. happen within our lives.  I have told some of my clients that, after an hour session together—if we were intentional about our time, then we would both leave my office changed in some way.  That’s what we do—we affect each other’s lives…  let’s make the effect a redemptive experience to empower us all to live more consistently with the values we hold close in our hearts.

When I arrived home this evening with my wonderfully supportive wife Karla, I began to reflect on how this experience has impacted my life.  Just as I attempted to pay attention with intention on the Walk, the journey is not over.  I have more intentional reflecting and learning to do.  There is still much to glean from this wonderful opportunity I had…. so more to come.  Just as T.S. Eliot wrote:

“And the end of our exploring will be to arrive where we started…

And know the place for the first time.”

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Did you know that there is a wonderful Village Welcome Center dedicated to pioneer history of the area, the LH, the Loess (for those of you who wonder how to pronounce this, it rhymes with “bus”) Hills, etc.?  Just about two miles northwest of Missouri Valley on the LH, it is a great stop in so many ways. I treated myself to a new hat with the LH design on our way home today.  Kathy Dirks, the center’s coordinator, took my picture next to a LH marker that still stands upright in its original place… she was going to do something with it, but I can’t remember what!

Today, after the completion of the Walk, I met a waitress at a restaurant in Missouri Valley who wondered why the four of us all had on orange t-shirts with the LH design on the front.  After briefly telling the story, she decided to inform others (regulars, I am assuming) of my journey.  Today, I learned to start putting matters into perspective—that I did not accomplish this Walk alone… and togetherness and gratitude need to remain central in my upcoming conversations.

Today I am grateful for my loving brother Hal Minear.  It is a major understatement to say that I could not have accomplished this challenge without his support.  I may have walked every step of the way on my own… but, without his practical, logistical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual support, I don’t think that this would have been a success.  So… I don’t really know how to express the depth of my gratitude and love to my brother for helping to make my bucket wish dream a reality…  so…  I gently, humbly, mindfully, and graciously says “thank you, big brother” as you have always had an amazing way of looking out for your younger brother across the years.  The gift of my “gratitude marble” was deeply heartfelt!

Peace, Mark

P.S.  Moments after I finished this morning, I received a call from the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center to inform me that $11,555.05 has been given to the Counseling Assistance Fund thus far… perhaps a few more donations will still come in…  I hope so!  The fund will always be there with the need. My humble thanks to all of you who contributed to strengthen our abilities to serve the uninsured and underinsured.

P.S.S. I think that I will likely have one more blog entry… perhaps in a week or so.  It may be interesting to others what develops out of further processing and reflection… and it would be great to write an entry without the pressure of time amidst my diminished mental acuity due to fatigue!

Day 14 a

Mark: “From the bridge you can see the Missouri River in the background.”

Day 14 b

Mark: “The end of the road.”

Day 14 c

Mark: “This Lincoln Highway marker is still in place where the Boy Scouts initially put it in 1928…at the Village Welcome Center just north of Missouri Valley on U.S. 30.”

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For more information and more posts, please see Mark’s homepage: dmpcc.org/WalkwithMark.

Everyone is invited to “Walk with Mark” by helping him reach his goal to support quality mental health services for boys and men. Supporting his 331-mile trek is easy as 1-2-3:

  1. Walk with Mark via his blog on the Center’s website or Facebook page.
  2. Walk with Mark by joining him for part of his itinerary.
  3. Walk with Mark with a donation to the Center for the counseling assistance fund.

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Day 13 – May 3, 2016

A Walk Across Iowa on the Old Lincoln Highway: Day #13

Mark Minear

Mark Minear

by Mark Minear 

Greetings!

Over the recent years I have attempted to understand and embrace the transformational power of nurturing gratitude in my life. It has seemed to intertwine very comfortably with mindfulness—to learn to pay attention with intention. When we have eyes to see, there are always good things around us for which we can be grateful. (And, without being simplistic about looking for the silver lining, I would include that I do believe that—even in the midst of our pain—we can still be grateful for the many daily, moment-by-moment gifts in our lives.)

But this Walk has helped me to contemplate that I still have much more to learn. I have had so many generous people provide me with various kinds of practical support, messages of encouragement, and donations to support the Counseling Assistance Fund—people who simply care about me and wanted to contribute to help make my adventure a success. (It really does take a village to help a walker across the state of Iowa.) I think that I still have difficulties simply accepting such gifts without scheming that there must be a way I can return the favor… get even, you know, balance the scales by figuring out what I can give back in return. Though I am not as eloquent late at night when I am fatigued as when I am mindfully walking and reflecting, I do think that—even as I am sharing an expression of gratitude, if I am somewhere in the future thinking about how to make things even, then I am likely to not be fully present with gratitude in the moment. Sometimes all we have to do is to mindfully and graciously say “thank you.”

In fact, when we are fully present for our expressions of gratitude to others, then both we as the receivers and others as the givers are more likely to experience the power of grace, which has the potential to be transformational for both parties. And I figure that if I can be more mindful about simply being grateful (and not working some angle in my head about paying something back), then perhaps the transformation will include becoming a more generous person… whatever the future holds… paying back, paying forward it doesn’t matter… just becoming more cheerful and generous in my giving in the future! I figure that if I have some guilt in the midst of receiving a gift, then I have more work to do to clear out, “let go” of, some of the obstacles in the way of expressing my gratitude – whether it is to God, to others, or even simply a matter of what is quietly experienced in the heart!

Well, tonight I feel inadequate trying to describe my efforts to learn more about gratitude (more to come in the days ahead). Here in Missouri Valley at an RV area at the fairgrounds, about 10.5 miles away from the Missouri River… my brother Hal and I have been joined by our wives. Tomorrow, Karla, Hal, and Beckie will be here to walk a little with me… and to celebrate the finish with me. In my efforts to learn, I will start with trying to “purify” gratitude with them… all I have to do is to express a heartfelt “thank you!”

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” (Meister Eckhart)

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Did you know that the community of Woodbine developed a unique and historical way of welcoming Lincoln Highway travelers into its downtown? In 1921, the city installed brick on the LH for about six blocks. The bricked section of the road is on the National Register of Historic Places.

Today I met Elmer and Bruce, long-term residents of Woodbine over another sub sandwich. We had a friendly chat about a number of things (including the importance of abstaining from alcohol among other moral/religious matters—something that Elmer learned from his grandmother); however, they also directed me to a notable gas station with history on the LH—the Brickstreet Station (see pictures below). What was interesting about this conversation is that Elmer (who reported that he was now in his 90s) said he can remember, just barely, when they were laying the bricks for the street—which he said was completed in 1929. So… I am not certain where the line is between historical fact and legend.

Today I learned that both the Lincoln Highway (U.S. 30) and the Union Pacific railroad are still vital arteries of commerce, work and employment, family, etc.—all ways that we make connections across the miles. The original transcontinental Lincoln Highway was established to unite the country… and it united Iowa in many ways as well… and U.S. 30 certainly continues that tradition. And the sound of a train is never far away from the LH… whether during the day with the Walk or during the night in the middle of sleep. From our home in Marshalltown we hear the roar, rumble, and horn of the train about one-half mile to the south. (I left today’s gratitude marble along the railroad tracks… as I am still tickled that trains are still so relevant.)

Today I am grateful for Rick & Judy, long-time friends that came up to Missouri Valley from their home near Glenwood. Karla and I became friends with Rick and Judy now almost 40 years ago; and, even though we haven’t seen each other regularly over the years, as kindred spirits we always resume where we left off the last time. I am grateful that we have such friendships. They had heard about my adventure from another mutual friend, Lucia, who lives in MN. It was an encouragement to see them here at the end of the journey across Iowa!

Peace, Mark

P.S.. I have just over ten more miles to go to get to the Missouri River. I hope to have this journey completed by around 12 noon on 5/4/2016. Then I will likely have another blog at the end of the last day—likely from home… and then, perhaps, some post-journey reflections in a week or so. I know that there is still more to come on gratitude… hopefully something more refined and thoughtfully articulated.

Day 13 a

Mark: “It has been suggested that I take more selfies…so here you go with the Woodbine historic block.”

 

Day 13 b

Mark: “A couple of pictures of the Brickstreet station in Woodbine.”

Day 13 c

Mark: “Notice the mileage to New York and San Francisco.”

Day 13 d

Mark: “Before this trek I had not heard of the Boyer River, which empties into the Missouri…but now I have walked its river basin the past two days.”

Day 13 e

Mark: “I think that I am up to 14 Lincoln Highway markers with this one in Logan and the three at the Welcome Center just north of Missouri Valley.”

 

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Everyone is invited to “Walk with Mark” by helping him reach his goal to support quality mental health services for boys and men. Supporting his 331-mile trek is easy as 1-2-3:

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  2. Walk with Mark by joining him for part of his itinerary.
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Day 12 – May 2, 2016

A Walk Across Iowa on the Old Lincoln Highway: Day #12

Mark Minear

Mark Minear

by Mark Minear

Greetings! I discovered this evening that one of the donations to the Center’s Counseling Assistance Fund was given by an uncle remembering his brilliant and gifted nephew. His nephew had a mental illness and took his life five years ago. I read and re-read the words about this young man who was only 30 when his life ended… and, just as he was dearly loved, he is now deeply missed. First of all, I am humbled that such a gift in memory would be given to my efforts with this Walk. But also, I was moved by the grief that this family has experienced over the recent years as I was introduced, in a small way, to an incredible soul whose life was tragically shortened. I am grateful for this donation… and to this uncle who misses his nephew and who wants to contribute to the lives of others who might be suffering from mental distress. This may be the highest act of love we can do amidst our own loss, grief, and pain… to be redemptive in our efforts to help someone else. Peace to this uncle and this family.

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Did you know that this blog is just packed with fun Lincoln Highway trivia? Here’s a good one: today, while making the trek west out of Westside, I had the privilege of walking for about three miles on the northernmost (you know, in terms of latitude) part of the entire transcontinental Lincoln Highway from New York to San Francisco.

Today I met P.J., manager at the Sparky’s mini-mart in Vail. Originally from Denison with great hometown pride, P.J. had lots of information and stories covering the LH, Denison’s celebrities—Donna Reed and Brandon Scherff (University of Iowa offensive guard who was drafted 5th overall in the NFL 2015 draft by the Washington Redskins), railroads, his grandfather (who kept Donna Reed’s brother’s pick-up from the 1930s going), etc. I had a second breakfast of a sausage, egg, and cheese croissant and a Gatorade along with a delightful conversation. I told P.J. that he was “spontaneously entertaining” as his second job is announcing the Crawford County dirt track races in Denison (if I remember correctly)!

Today I learned something about the strength of the aroma of an ethanol plant. This is the second one that I walked by over the past two weeks (they were both about a mile in length—Nevada and Denison) but the first one where I was downwind.

Today I am grateful for some of the simply pleasures in life: walking by someone mowing freshly cut grass; the croaking sounds of frogs in the flooded ditches and other wet areas; geese either taking off in flight or attending to their goslings; the quickly changing formations of clouds; and the beauty and song of the redwing blackbird (such a cool bird that seems to have their nests in the countryside ditches). In gratitude for the call of this particular passerine bird, today’s marble once again was tossed into another Iowa ditch!

Peace, Mark

P.S. There are a lot of good books on the history and updated status of the Lincoln Highway. A couple of my favorites are by Brian Butko: Greetings from the Lincoln Highway (2005) and Lincoln Highway Companion: A Guide to America’s First Coast-to-Coast Road (2009).

P.S.S. Due to the rain over the weekend (I walked in the light rain but the rain on Saturday was just too heavy), I got about a half day behind… so I hope to finish at the Missouri River (about 10 miles west of Missouri Valley) around noon on Wednesday, May 4th!

day 12 a

Mark: “Once again the Lincoln Highway and the Union Pacific railroad crisscross…and stay fairly close to each other!”

Day 12 b

Mark: “I was so excited to catch this picture of the train coming by that my finger got in the way.”

Day 12 c

Mark: “This Standard gas station in Vail was restored just last year.”

Day 12 d

Mark: “This stately home on the Lincoln Highway just north and wet of Arion has magnificent brickwork.”

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Everyone is invited to “Walk with Mark” by helping him reach his goal to support quality mental health services for boys and men. Supporting his 331-mile trek is easy as 1-2-3:

  1. Walk with Mark via his blog on the Center’s website or Facebook page.
  2. Walk with Mark by joining him for part of his itinerary.
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Day 11 – May 1, 2016

A Walk Across Iowa on the Old Lincoln Highway: Day #11

Mark Minear

Mark Minear

by Mark Minear

Greetings!

Today was a day of incredible diversity; and I stayed busy “noticing” my reactions (automatic stuff) and my responses (more intentionally thoughtful). From the time my brother dropped me off on the boundary between Greene County and Carroll County to the time I finished approximately 27 miles later just over the boundary between Carroll County and Crawford County, I experienced a variety of weather, sights and sounds, and togetherness and aloneness as I trekked east-west across the entire Carroll County!

I walked miles on gravel roads without encountering a single car… this provided a wonderful opportunity for a more mindful walking meditation. The skies provided a light cool rain (45 degrees) well into the afternoon… but, after a change into dry clothes and shoes and some calories and a break with napping in my brother’s car for a while, I was energized to keep a 4 mph pace for the last 12 miles; and, by the time I reached the hilly town of Westside (not certain about the origin of the name because this town is on the east side of Crawford County… just feet into Crawford), the sun was out and people were mowing their yards and kids were playing football. I noticed how my moods changed over the course of the day as well… People talk about the Iowa weather changing quickly – you’ve heard the jokes. But there is something about taking another step that changes our view of the world… or pausing for a moment… or engaging a person… or enjoying the beauty of nature… or reflecting on the magnitude of the universe… or expressing a sense of gratitude… or listening to the “still small voice” within our hearts… there are so many ways that our lives can be transformed! Paying attention with intention is the key!

Did you know that Iowa had over 100,000 miles of roads by 1912 but few were graveled or paved? By the early 1920s not much had changed; Iowa dirt turned to mud with rain was called gumbo, “a particularly vicious and viscous and generally impassable brand of mud peculiar to the state.” In light of the significant amounts of rain in western Iowa over the past two days, I wanted to share a warning to motorists from the 1924 Lincoln Highway Association guidebook: “It is folly to drive on Iowa dirt roads, during or immediately after a rain… When it rains in Iowa or Nebraska, the tourist should stop if he wishes to save his car, his time, his tires, and his temper.”

Today I met Brenda at the Casey’s in Glidden; she fixed me an egg, cheese, and sausage breakfast sandwich, and we realized that we knew a common person. Today three gifts to the Des Moines Pastoral Counseling Center’s Counseling Assistance Fund were given primarily because of the WHO-TV news segment. An anonymous couple just getting out of church, a woman named Sue who had her reasons to affirm such efforts for men and mental health, and Kevin a farmer whose dog Sidney followed alongside of me for about a half mile (he was my co-walker for the day) were all generous and encouraging.

Today I learned more about the way that rain makes its way to the ocean… filling the fields, down the waterways, into the ditches, to the creeks, the streams, and the rivers… WOW! I could see it, hear it, smell it… and, today, I had the privilege of walking across the divide between the Missouri and the Mississippi Rivers drainage basins—it is noted just off of U.S. 30. (Into the fast moving creek empowered by the drainage from a field plopped my gratitude marble for today!)

Today I had an extra sense of grateful simply about being alive. It is such a privilege to participate in this adventure with the entire experience… with its joys and its sorrows, its mysteries and its meanings, its beauty and its chaos, etc. And I think that hope is such a central part of this journey I am taking. Martin Luther King said, “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.” I think that the sacredness of love is the transformational hope moving in all of our hearts… attending to this intimation will give our lives a sense of purpose and peace and power!

Peace, Mark

Day 11 a

Mark: “Merle Hay was from Glidden, Iowa. He enlisted in the army with eight others from this small town on May 3, 1917.”

Day 11 b

Mark: “He was the first iowa serviceman and perhaps the first American serviceman to die World War I on November 3, 2917.”

Day 11 c

Mark: “The city of Carroll is graciously trying to guide me through their community on the Old Lincoln Highway.”

Day 11 d

Mark: “Today I walked long stretches of gravel roads. . .remnants of the original Lincoln Highway.”

 

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Everyone is invited to “Walk with Mark” by helping him reach his goal to support quality mental health services for boys and men. Supporting his 331-mile trek is easy as 1-2-3:

  1. Walk with Mark via his blog on the Center’s website or Facebook page.
  2. Walk with Mark by joining him for part of his itinerary.
  3. Walk with Mark with a donation to the Center for the counseling assistance fund.

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